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When female sexuality http://www.itfuturz.com/mostbet-turkye-canl-bahs-guvenilir-giri/ ends and intimate relationships pass away? Attention, spoiler: no-kog-yes! Here you have a quite scientific view of the question of sex after menopause from a specialist in Chinese medicine, Anna Vladimirova.

I really like the current trend: young women are actively interested and plan their future, study questions of how to maintain health and sexuality over the years. About how your sex will be after menopause, and even when this very menopause comes, you need to think now – during the heyday of strength and capabilities.

Menopause is a reduction in the amount of forces

In Chinese traditional medicine, there is the concept of “qi” – the amount of strength, and when it is reduced, the female body refuses the childbearing function (menopause occurs). And it depends not only and not so much on age.

During the Second World War, young girls of twenty to twenty-five years ceased to menstrue after a year or two sitting in the trenches: they depleted the body, and the body “turned off” the detailed function for the sake of saving the resource. One of them after the end of the war was restored, someone has no.

Here’s a reverse example for you. I traveled a lot to Southeast Asia and, in particular, lived in monasteries, where women’s Taoist practices are studied-techniques that allow you to accumulate energy and increase the body’s resource. Such women can maintain fertility until old age.

We are capable of a lot in our body, and even the mechanisms studied by his mechanisms indicate that menopause is an adjustable phenomenon.According to Chinese medicine, normal – if you are no longer faced with the task of giving birth – it occurs at the age of 49. How this process affects sexual relations?

Anatomical details

For a long time it was believed that female sexuality is like a male. A man has a stage when an erection fades away and his sexuality ends on this – it means that women should have a similar scenario. This reminds me of the idea of burning a living wife in a husband’s funeral stake. And the period of menopause is the best suited for the ritual “burning” of sexuality: after the fading of the ovaries, the woman’s lubrication is reduced – and this is a sign! It’s time to stop intimate fun!

Some evidence was even attached to this idea: according to studies, it was believed that female sexuality was tied to ovarian hormones, and when they stop working, libido disappears.

Modern research refutes this idea: according to them, the driver of female sexuality, like male, is testosterone. Only in men its level decreases with age, and in women it grows. This means that with age a woman becomes more sexy. Scientifically proven! Fact! Why do some ladies put a cross on themselves and say that sex is no longer their element?

Poor PR menopause

If a woman drove something into the head, then she is able to fit all the surrounding reality under this strategy-and, of course, her own state. If she explains to her for years that at this age they have not had sex at this age, she will believe – and will not be. Even if you want. Even if sometimes objectively required! Even if there is a favorite and ready for the exploits of a partner at the side.

Residents of the USSR fell into such an information field in which sex and at a childbearing age was not the most relevant activity, but after menopause completely disappeared. I propose another, more modern vision of sex after menopause – based on objective facts.

– You are calm! Young girls face a lot of experiences about an unwanted pregnancy: a constant threat of “flying away”, the selection of correct contraceptives, several levels of protection … In alarming nature, these experiences can significantly reduce the pleasure of sex. And now – finita la comedy, no more unrest! You can have sex the way you like, with the one you like, without aggravating circumstances. Don’t you dream about it? And it will be!

– You are free! In childbearing, we ladies hostages of our hormonal differences. A woman happens the same time every 28 days – and this is with a stable cycle, and if he is foster … Over the years, we get used to our mood swings, learn to control them, but still our relationship is not a very well -balanced attraction with eternal upsetsand falls.

Before the onset of menopause, our mood does not belong to us, but with the onset – we will free ourselves from hormonal storms and can enjoy our intellect, kindness and wisdom. Menopausa is the shortest way to myself and my own freedom, so I am happy to think that this period is to be, and how nice it is to know that this is just another stage of life and relations with men in it will play an important role.

34-year-old Artem plays in a musical group and wants a little rest. His wife, 41-year-old love, is engaged in children and demands more money in the family. The conflictologist helps the heroes hear each other.

Love: Last year my mother died, and since then everything has gone awry. I started visiting a psychologist. It became easier for me, but relations with my husband were divided.

Artem: Precisely because you started visiting him!

L.: Just before the start of therapy, I was comfortable and was always silent.

Oleg Ivanov: Before the start of therapy, you did not talk about problems, and the specialist advised you to discuss them. Apparently, Artem did not expect such a turn. Often we cannot find a common language with a partner simply because he is not ready for conversation.

L.: He is never ready! Artem is a musician. That is, no money, but we have three children – two from my previous marriage. I understand that he has a creative work, but I can’t come to terms with the fact that he is not trying to earn more. I propose options, and he says: “I heard you” or “I understand you”, and nothing changes. Can sit all night with the phone on the balcony. After I will speak out, day or two I do not pester him. Then everything is repeated.

ABOUT.AND.: Obviously, Artem has other priorities. In particular, creativity.

L.: But what about the family?

ABOUT.AND.: He tries to combine, but in case of problems, he tries not to notice them. However, Artem, if something has accumulated, then sooner or later it will come out. It makes no sense to turn away from the conflict. First you need to accept it, and then try to resolve. It will not disappear by itself.

A.: Agree. But there are problems that are not solved at one point. For example, financial. Lyuba talks about it constantly, she needs everything at once. But if you stand over my soul all the time, it will not go faster.

ABOUT.AND.: Love stands over your soul because he sees that you do not react in any way. Colossal work can go inside you, but it is not visible outside. If you draw up a plan of action and invite her to consider it together, the tension will decrease. Many now have material problems as a man and as a father I understand you. Think about how to raise children is difficult.

Try to build a feedback communication so that love can see that her comments reach you. It is better to give feedback that will not suit the interlocutor than no. To say “I will not do this” or “this is impossible” better than dismissed the phrases “I heard you” or “I understood you”.

A.: I understand without outside help that we need to communicate with each other with anyone else. But the pressure on her part turned into a chronic.

L.: Because you are constantly sitting on the phone and not looking for another job. He worked in the evening a performance, and tired as if he had descended into the mine. I understand that this is a lifestyle. But I am different: I need actions, activity. Let at least the wagons work out to unload or courier. Even sell the aquarium, which we have been lying for a hundred years, and then there will be help.

ABOUT.AND.: You press on Artem.

L.: And what remains for me? I can’t live like that. I’m not sure of tomorrow and that I can feed three children.

ABOUT.AND.: Artem, you are a musician. Thought about tutoring?

A.: Yes, this is possible in the future.

L.: Why not right now? What should happen so that you take responsibility?!

ABOUT.AND.: Love, I assure you, if you continue to crush, the process will not accelerate. There is opposition to any action: Artem is blocking, you crush it stronger – it is more defended. This is a dead end. I think you should try to be more flexible. How many years have you been married?

L.: Two years. Before that, they lived together for another year.

ABOUT.AND.: For marriage this is a critical period, and now you are standing at a crossroads. When you are talking about the shortcomings of Artem, you are driven by resentment. But do not compare it with you: you are different. You, love, open, active. Artem prefers to spend time alone with himself, which, you see, is not easy in your large family.

L.: Yes, he says that everything got him. The apartment is large, and Artem occupied the balcony, put the latch. The only time when he is in high mood is at night after the performance.

A.: Because it is impossible to concentrate during the day. Not a minute of peace. If we had the opportunity to miss each other, it would be easier for me to concentrate on important matters. And I would come to you myself, voluntarily. Believe me, I understand the responsibility to the family. To do this, it is not necessary to eat on me every day. Yes, my position is more simple: since there is no money now, then we will go to the sea later. Why make a tragedy out of this?

ABOUT.AND.: Artem, you must also understand your spouse. She is afraid for children, but instead of reassuring her, you are exacerbating the situation. Your position is clear, love heard you, but was it time to hear it?

A.: I don’t want to talk to her, every time I hear the same thing.

ABOUT.AND.: Maybe if you hear love at least once, it will stop yelling at you.

L.: I understand a creative crisis. But since you are a creative person, then you can’t contact you with everyday questions? In a similar situation, I ended up with my previous husband. He was left without work and spent six months in the computer until I went to work myself to provide my family. He liked such a life: he gained loans, and there was nothing to give away. Collectors began to break into the house. I’m afraid of repetition, because I know what happens when you let a man relax.

ABOUT.AND.: Love, Artem is another man, not the one with whom you parted. He is not ready for the format of communication that you propose, and he has desires that it is difficult for him to talk about with you.

L.: In this case, we are probably better to disperse.

ABOUT.AND.: Dismant to disperse is a simple solution, you will always have time. Maybe among your relatives or friends there is someone who could act between you?

A.: I would not want to devote someone to my personal life in such details. Another thing is consultation. I agreed that Lyuba was satisfied and because I do not think that everything is bad and you need to disperse. Just piled on everything at once.

I want Lyuba to stop fussing. Any situation has a solution. But if you thicken the colors every day, then it can be lost. Lyuba,

on social networks you write that you have to meet the morning with a smile, and you tell me that everything is terrible and that we are all dying. Is it true?

ABOUT.AND.: You started talking to each other, it’s good. Simple conversation is sometimes enough to lose the accumulated tension. Therefore, speak with each other, because you are interested in together, despite different characters. And understand that your partner is also difficult: maybe even more difficult than you.

Judging by the fact that you are sitting opposite me, you have the opportunity to get somewhere without children. Use it as often as possible. Go together in the cinema, in a cafe or for a walk. And share with each other what is in your head.

Do not demand from a partner to solve problems alone, even if it is only his own problems, and even more family. Combine efforts to solve them together.

Two weeks later

Love: Apparently, we needed a third party for me to hear my husband. So he finally talk to me and express his position. All home conversations usually ended in dissatisfaction and resentment, but after consulting the time we became more calm, serious quarrels were able to avoid.

The main thing is that we understood: we need to communicate more often alone with each other, without children. And in another setting besides the house. The consultation not only gave a positive effect, but also gave pleasure: after it I had a feeling of “expressing” left.

Artem: The consultation turned out to be useful experience. Not that I learned something new for myself, but I liked this practice. She became simultaneously a respite from a daily routine, and a pleasant family event. In addition, without children, which, as it turned out, is useful for ours from any relationship.

I am glad that my wife is satisfied with this campaign, and if she is satisfied, then I am satisfied with. Oleg proposed options for solving problems that we still have to discuss, in a sense inspired us and made us and my wife heard each other.